Letting Go Doesn't Mean Giving Up

December 5 – Let Go. What (or whom) did you let go of this year? Why? (Author: Alice Bradley)

All my life, I have struggled to let go. To me, letting go of someone or something lies solely in understanding. And when I don't understand, I ask questions. I take that little word, "why," and I twist and turn and beat the living hell out of it, hoping for clarity. Asking questions allows me to come up with a reason of why something is (or isn't) happening. It allows me to take my unconditional hope, put a spin on the situation for the better, and hold on.

I'm happy to say that I've come to realization that letting go of someone or something should not be the result of days, weeks, & months of asking questions and pouring hope into a situation I cannot control. Yet, letting go should be the realization that I’ve done everything within my power to make this situation the absolute best that it can be and there is nothing left I can give to it to make it better.

Most recently, I let go of someone that I have been holding onto for a long time. I had always thought this person and I were meant to have a chance together but the timing just never seemed right. We went through so much together, and I held on for so long, clinging to the hope that our "someday" was right around the corner. Then it hit me that the timing never being right was a sign in and of itself. I had made myself available enough times to try and make it work but I just didn't have anymore to give. I didn't have any more time to spend waiting for someone who simply wasn't making the time for us.

So, I let him go and I haven't looked back since.